Saturday, April 18, 2015

How Much Money Does an Average Person Have?

Today, my son asked me a very funny question. His curiosity is sometimes funny like that, it knows no boundaries.

How much money does an average person have?

Instead of putting a number to it (which is nearly impossible for me, anyway), I gave him some examples.

Some people make money really easily and don't have to worry about paying bills or born into a rich family or born with a silver spoon.

Some have to work hard and have lots of bills to pay so, they probably don't have very much to spare.

Some people have very little but they probably have very few bills so, they probably have 'enough to get by' sometimes.

And then you have some who are living like this.


Thursday, April 16, 2015

Seeing The End of Child Marriages

If you are have 20, 21 minutes to spare, have a look at the following National Geographic video. Some comments on Youtube were brutal and harsh on these people, especially the men and religion but I agree with the photographer and writer about how complex the situation is.

It is almost impossible to disrupt the marriage without shaming the family. And that is because they do not see, or rather, they do not have the opportunity to see beyond merely being 'marrying off'. I would even venture out to say that, perhaps, it could be their only life mission.

To get married. Every other girl has gone through it, otherwise, they risk being raped and shamed for the rest of their lives.

The video is haunting but it is a reminder to the rest of us that we are lucky enough to be seeing and understanding what we do and have today. Education. Freedom to choose who we get to spend the rest of our lives with. Opportunities to pursue our dreams. A chance to be happy. The right to say 'no' to becoming a parent.

While creating inroads towards a better future for these young children is a seemingly uphill battle, considering the culture that they live in, we should not give up hope that one day, these people will get to see what the rest of the world has become and it is time to retire parts of this culture.

The feature on the last girl gives me hope.


Monday, April 13, 2015

Blessings For the Silent and Strong Ones

It's never a nice feeling to watch people suffer. We are all human beings and sometimes, seeing someone in pain as you watch helplessly at the sidelines can be one of the most humanizing things to experience.

To top it off, to watch someone else suffer (apart from the victim) out of circumstances is just as heartbreaking, as much as we try to understand what is going on and happening in front of our eyes.

And yet....there is absolutely nothing you can do about it but to watch, hope, pray and be there....just in case. Nothing. It's frustrating and disheartening at the same time.

But as with everything else in life, no matter how many times you ask 'why', the world will answer you with a thundering 'why not?'

The best I can do is to add their names to the list of people I pray for everyday and thank the-powers-that-be for blessing me with the opportunity to do that little bit.


Wednesday, April 8, 2015

I Am Not Average But Am I Beautiful?

The other day my friend paid me a compliment....and a rather depressing blank fact.

'Your face looks the same but...well, your body shape may have 'altered' but your face remains the same'.

The funny thing is that it didn't make me want to wolf down slimming pills or go for a marathon. It made me feel like I didn't want to undress and look in the mirror and I DID for a fraction of a second think that something should be done to 'correct' this situation. Maybe something should be done...but not for the reason I started to believe about myself.

The truth is, however, I snapped out of it and laughed along with my friend who was being frank with me. I decided to accept the 'your face looks the same' compliment (I hope and pray to God that she also meant that my face has not been mangled by age and the evil that is gravity). Maybe a little, I mean, come on. Hashtag #RealityCheck (Can't believe I just did that in a blog post! LOL)

I am no longer 20, a fact that I live with with every creak of my spine and back, arms, legs, neck, knee,'s not possible for me to expect to have the face of a 20 year matter how many 'V' signs I flash and duck face I pull.

But do I have to apologize or feel bad about motherhood? Pregnancy? For aging? For being a kind human being to myself?

I know this is not everyone's cup of tea, I know and it's OK. Some like Boh Tea, some like Chamomile, some like Lavender, some like Jasmine. I like 'kind' tea. Some people prefer the 'let's give gravity a run for its money and live till we are 1000 years old and still look 25' method. Well....I hope you find Edward Cullen soon. Maybe Bella needs company, away from that pesky mind-reading sister-in-law.

In case you've not heard of him, here's his mugshot. I heard he sparkles and that's kinda hard to miss, really.

Edward Cullen. He bites but...let him.

Jokes aside, there was something Dove did that I think we should emulate everyday. Learn to love ourselves and believe that we are beautiful. And although the video and experiment did not elaborate much about what those people who walked through the door on the left got out of it, we can make a very good guess, can't we?

Elation. Confidence. A big smile. A fist pump and maybe a hug with the friend who walked through the left door with you. 

Just like you, I would have walked through the 'Average' door myself and it is, maybe, time for us to start asking ourselves 'why'.

For those who are viewing on your mobile devices, if you can't view the video and is interested, here it is on CNN.


Thursday, April 2, 2015

The Least Anticipated April Fools' Birthday 2015

The whole country's been going on and on about nothing else but GST, GST and GST. April 1, 2015 is the date that everyone would have to pay extra tax on top of the service tax that we are already paying. The price of (almost) everything will go up by 6% - understandably, nobody likes that kind of news. To add salt to the wound, we don't exactly know what is taxable and what isn't. It's really confusing and Malaysia has a tendency to leave its people like that.

Fun. lol

It's, however, my kids' and mom's birthday.....and everyone (in my country) hates it.

Anyway, had a massive meat-packed BBQ dinner the night before April 1 and then on the day itself, had another packed meal for their birthday too. Not sure why but there is no celebration of any other sort this year. They are OK with that, not every year has to be like gold flakes, confetti and fireworks. They know that most people go to school on their birthdays, work on their birthdays, are treated no special on their birthdays or suffer or go through pain on their birthdays. They know that so, they, being the sweet kids that they are, are just happy with all the well wishes....and FOOD!

Massive, cream-filled chocolate volcano cake!

The 3 birthday people. And yes, all three of them have Apr 1 birthdays...on the dot. No, it's not a joke.

When did they grow up so tall and big? Such big guys I have. 

Time flies, eh?

Tuesday, March 31, 2015

Mankind's Footprint

I began carrying my own shopping bag a couple of years ago and was quizzed by someone for 'carrying a bag within a bag' because it is 'funny'. And although I don't always remember to bring the bag with me (sorry), most of the time, when I go shopping, I come home with as few plastic bags as possible. I recycle cans and bottles and recently have gone on to make soaps in earnest.

My efforts will continue.

I think everyone should try their best to do it and it is OK for people to look at you funny. Don't be afraid that people will think you are a 'tree hugger' or a 'hippie' or whatever. And what's wrong with being a tree hugger, anyway? It's not a crime.

What troubles me sometimes is when people make NO effort at all. Not even the tiniest bit of effort.

For example, I told someone that she can maybe carry a bag around for shopping and her reply was, 'I can't. I need the plastic bags for my thrash'. Before even making the effort, she already sees a need for the plastic bags. Without even trying to see if reducing the number of plastic bags would have an impact on the number of plastic bags she would need for thrash.

Anyway, to each his or her own. But this is my path and I want to stick to it as much as I can. I hope in the future, more people join me. It's OK if you don't want to join me too, it's fine.


Friday, March 27, 2015

Why SOOOooooOOOOOoooo Sensitive?

I think I was about 10 when these words were first asked of me.

'Don't be so sensitive lah'.

I think it was because my f-g cousin was teasing me about something. But after that, I figured that I am a sensitive person and I shouldn't be...maybe? Something's wrong with me.

But because I am sensitive, it has enabled me to step into roles during plays, sing a particular song in a particular way, write a certain article (with no first hand knowledge or experience) with confidence because I can step into another person's shoes almost instantaneously, create stories just by imagining it in my head, write movie scripts like I am one of the actors or the producers (this happened just once, I don't know what happened to that script and I have been on the lookout for it since, lol, I can't say anything either cause I signed an agreement) and creatively jump into or react in situations that others might not be able to.

I read that sensitivity or OVER-sensitivity is in the DNA. Can I now blame my parents or grandparents? Maybe not. Because they probably inherited it as well, right?

Over the years, I heard this a lot. 'Don't be so sensitive la!'

Why not?

The Emphatethic BadAss,

Sunday, March 22, 2015

Pastel Lavender Soaps

Well, this is my attempt at making a 'sweet-looking' soap. lol The last one I made was an angry green, you see.

I meant for it to have a more even coloring. Failed as you can see dollops and dollops of blue and yellow here, there and then some are just....white. This is the result of me running out of time when the soap began to thicken when I was slowly taking my time preparing the colors.

So, as they thicken, I just chucked them here and there and everywhere including the newspaper that was lining the floor. hahahaha. And if you zoom in, you can see that the top is not even either. That's me panicking and running out of time.

This bar of soap is less moisturizing than other soaps I made which were consistently Marseilles soaps (heavy on Olive Oil) and there is a dash of Aloe Vera and Lavender-Rose essential oil too.

It may not have turned out as aesthetically-pleasing as I wanted it to be but I would totally sleep with these soaps. They smell like a field of Lavender flowers. For now.

Well, it's a journey. And that's important.


p.s. I was debating about whether I would see any green when blue meets yellow. Nope. Guess it doesn't happen when you've already mixed the Mica powder ahead of time.

Saturday, March 21, 2015

Loving a Woman Right

It is so true. When you love a woman right, it is within her to give you everything that she has and become ten times better than she was before.

So, if your woman is not treating you right, you are probably loving her wrong.


Top Actor Problems

Jo In Sung recently said this on National TV (Korean TV) and I think it's something that many people have on their minds when they are unsure. LOL

For these top actors, they have to keep an image and everyone thinks that they are the smooth criminals that they are on screen. Jo In Sung clarifies that right off the bat.

I love the honesty. Good night.